Often when we’re being tough and strong, we’re scared. It takes a lot of courage to allow ourselves to be vulnerable, to be soft.
— Dudley Martineau
We have developed defences for protection because we felt the need for protection from either people or past events. In certain situations, our defences have served us well for a time. However, they have taken their toll. If we hide behind them for too long they take their toll and they become habits. We move farther and farther away from who we really are.
Once we eventually discover our true selves, exposing it invites judgement, even rejection. This can be a difficult risk to take and the rewards are not often immediate! But with time, others respect us for our vulnerability and begin to follow our lead.
Soon, being our true authentic self comes easily. We no longer need to decide who we should be; we simply are who we are. It means being honest, with not only others, but also yourself. This way, you don’t need to remember much, if you simply be you.
PS, I know I give this message a lot!!