This week has been one of my most harrowing in years, to say the least. An unexpected and ‘never would have thought this would happen’ event took place and shocked us deeply.
It was therefore one of those times where I had to reach deep in to my own toolbox of life skills and use every piece of value I could to get through, one day at a time.
‘Getting through’ didn’t mean hopping under the sheets under nightfall, nor eating or drinking in excess to not feel the pain, nor doing whatever else one does to not feel the feelings.
Each day was taken as if it was a gift to experience the true depth of life, as, this was simply life happening and no matter how inconvenient and frustrating, this was life.
There is that saying, “what is, it”. It was about accepting the situation, using whatever means you have to stay at peace and calm, get up, and get on with it.
What are some of my favourite tools?
- Remain present, be in the moment and accept ‘what is’. When you sit with the present, it is amazing how the manufactured overwhelm in our mind dissipates.
- Live one day at a time. Do not give yourself the luxury of wallowing in what has happened and what might happen in the future. Our lives are broken up in 24 hour segments for a reason and we rest in between each segment.
- Keep asking yourself, “what is good about this situation?” Keep looking at the positive, and there always is positive in everything.
- Go and pat your cat or any other pet, so and pick up a baby, watch something on You Tube that will make you smile.
- Be grateful for everything you have in your life. Gratitude will always change your attitude. When one thing is lost, something else is always found.